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Sexual Shame, Guilt, & Abuse | How to Lessen It & Accept Your Sexuality


Hi everyone! This video is going
to be about shame and guilt regarding sex and sexuality, and
how to lessen it and accept it and open up about your
sexuality. Feeling ashamed and guilty about sexual thoughts,
urges, or anything related to our sexuality is quite common.
We may feel ashamed we are having thoughts about sex, or
about a type of thing we like regarding our sexual practices,
our sexual desires and needs, even self pleasure such as
masturbation, or even feeling shame regarding whom we are
attracted to. We are all sexual beings, however we begin to
feel ashamed due to how we were raised and how we view the
world around us. Perhaps we were raised in a religious household
that forbids sex outside marriage as well as views
anything besides a male and female having a relationship
as sinful. Yet, perhaps we are attracted to someone of the
same sex, which is something our religion forbids. We may feel
ashamed that we feel this way and deny it within ourselves.
This leads to even more problems for us as we may not be able to
form any meaningful connections with someone else due to the
shame we hold within ourselves. It’s only when the shame is
released that we can be open, honest, and embrace who we
really are and form meaningful connections with others. The
truth is, the shame we feel comes from external sources and
us adopting other’s views. It is not natural for us to have shame
regarding our sexuality. Since we are naturally sexual beings,
we are free to express our sexuality any way we desire.
Some may choose to not really show it or be sexual involved
with anyone, while others may be open to their sexuality and
express it every way they can. Whatever the case, there is no
right or wrong way of expressing your sexuality. So, the
shame that one feels is often instilled by society and/or
religion. As was mentioned earlier, religion may say it
is wrong to love someone of the same sex, but this is a belief
solely in that religion and not one you have to resonate
with. Likewise, certain sexual practices may be viewed
negatively by society which results in one feeling shame
about it and not wanting to explore the practice, despite
perhaps having the desire to partake in the behavior. Even
masturbation can be something that is viewed as shameful.
But, none of these things are shameful since they are a result
of others thinking they are wrong. Only you can determine
what you like. However, let’s not forget about abuse. Abuse
plays a big role in sexual shame and guilt. Perhaps if you have
endured sexual abuse in your life, especially from childhood,
then that can certainly play a large impact on your sexuality.
Any sexual thought may bring back this memory of what this
other person did to you and you begin to feel bad and ashamed
of yourself. This is a difficult one to overcome since society
instills this image of sex being something intimate and private,
and yet you have strong negative attachments to it which bring
back past memories that you simply feel as though you cannot
deal with. I do have a video specifically about sexual abuse,
so I’ll have an annotation and a link in the description for you
to check it out. This may help you along your path at
overcoming this obstacle that stands in your way of sexual
freedom and expression. Whereas what I will be discussing in
this video will allow you to lessen any remaining shame
and guilt so you can be free to express your sexuality with
confidence. But first, I would like to share a bit about my
own personal shame regarding my sexuality. The number one thing
for me has to do with the fact that I was born as a male. I had
male genitals, but they simply were not me. I didn’t resonate
with them since I despised them. I just wanted to escape from
my male self and sexuality. Any kind of sexual thoughts or urges
were viewed as disgusting for me and filled with shame and
regret. Yet, due to this constant denial of my sexuality,
I in fact was a very sexual person, but simply wouldn’t
admit it, not even to myself. Masturbation was filled with
extreme regret afterwards. I would always say, “I’m never
doing that again.” And yet, two or three days later at the most
the urge would come back and it’s like, “Oh yeah, I’m
doing this.” The behavior I participated in was all
self-discovery, which there certainly isn’t anything wrong
with. The problem was that I viewed it as shameful and
forbidden, like I shouldn’t be doing it. Even pornography
played a role in this. I would go online and view it and what
did it accomplish? Nothing, it was just a quick way to satisfy
an urge that could’ve had more potential and better end result
than shame. It even was at the point that I would purchase
sex toys online and it was just giving in to that shame since I
began to regret everything more and more the further I gave into
this sexual desire. But, after I began to transition and
love myself, things completely changed. That shame became
non-existent. But, I still had male genitals so I still wasn’t
open to the idea of talking about it. So, it was when I had
sex reassignment surgery that fully allowed me to be
comfortable in my sexuality since it was finally what it
always should’ve been. That was rough for me since it took a
long time for any sexual desires to actually come back after the
surgery. And when they did, I needed to explore my body
and discover what I liked. And further yet, it didn’t feel good
after surgery. I didn’t really care for it initially. But, it
got better with time. And you know what? There was no shame or
regret. I was able to express my sexuality in a healthy manner
and not feel guilty. A complete change from when I was living
as a male. I am very open to expressing my sexuality now
and there is no shame in talking about that since I know there
is nothing to feel guilty about. I’m open to that now and will
admit that I am a sexual person. It’s something I enjoy and view
as much more than just physical like I use to when I was a male
looking for some quick way to release that sexual energy,
which resulted in shame. Now, I will discuss some
ways you can lessen shame and guilt regarding
your sexuality. If you are having shame
regarding sex, one of the first steps is to understand the
shame. So, let’s say you have shame about masturbation.
Question the shame and think about it. Ask yourself why you
feel shame when masturbating. Ask yourself where it originated
from. There is no such thing as natural shame as it will always
originate from views that you have adopted. Let’s say in
this particular example, you ask yourself why you feel ashamed
when masturbating. The answer is because your mother doesn’t
allow it. Perhaps she caught you one time and had a talk with
you saying that it was wrong to satisfy yourself. Since then,
you had to satisfy your urges more secretly and it’s always
filled with shame whenever you do it because you feel as though
you shouldn’t be. You are just doing it because you feel you
have it, because of an urge, and not because you actually want
to. And this is because you were taught that it was wrong to
participate in this behavior. So, the shame originates
from you adopting your mother’s views. She told you it was
wrong, and when you participate in this behavior, especially
in secret, you feel that shame. Likewise, there is often shame
associated with pornography. However, with pornography there
is another layer of complexity. For one, many people learn about
sex through pornography. It may give one standards to live
up. Perhaps a male sees it and realizes they must have a
certain penis size and must perform certain acts in the
video they are watching to satisfy their woman. Or a woman
watching may think they must look a certain way, have certain
size breasts, and surrender to their man so he can be
satisfied. It can give one very incorrect interpretations of
real world sex. And the sad truth is that many people learn
about sex in this way which brings about more shame since
they doubt themselves and their sexuality since they are
unable to live up to the porn standards. And further yet, porn
often only projects one view, and that sex is strictly
physical and no other elements are involved. You usually do not
know the people in the video, or their background. There is often
no romance involved or build up before sex. And certainly there
is no emotional or spiritual attachment amongst the people.
This simply is not how real world sex is. With many
couples having sex, there is an attachment that goes beyond just
a physical connection. If you do watch it, then there is nothing
to be ashamed of. But, it certainly isn’t where the most
important lessons regarding sex should be learned since you will
be in for disappointment. Next, after you’ve recognized where
the shame originates, you have to address it and talk about it.
We hide things we are ashamed of. We avoid talking about or
deny the things we do not like or are ashamed of since it’s
easier to avoid the topic than it is to actually address it.
All this does is create more problems as it keeps building,
resulting in more shame. So, learn to open up and talk about
it. As with the example earlier, if you feel masturbation is
wrong, and know the source was from your mother instilling this
image in your mind, then talk about this with someone who is
more open. Even online support groups can help you find people
in similar situations and have worked through it. It may seem
like a scary monster that you do not want to think about, but the
moment you begin to talk about it and not hold those negative
attachments related to sex, everything gets easier to talk
about. It does take time, but opening up is extremely
important. You are not a bad person if you have certain
sexual desires or urges, and you certainly are not alone. There
are plenty of people that will accept you, but you have to
accept yourself first. Next, get to know your body and the things
you like. It’s ok to masturbate and feel sexual urges on your
own and satisfy them on your own. It’s ok to have certain
desires. It’s ok. Get to know the things you like and want.
After you know what you like, learn to accept those things
about yourself. You can make the most out of what you like to
enhance the experience. As long as it’s healthy behavior that is
safe for you and/or your partner or partners, then there is
nothing to be ashamed of. Express your sexuality how
you like because you have every right to. This brings me to
the final point, go beyond the physical. Sexual activity and
energy is much more than just physical. Even if you are solo,
you can utilize that sexual energy in so many more ways than
just physical. I will have a video dedicated to sexual energy
that will go into much more detail so I’ll have an
annotation and a link in the description. But, sexual energy
is extremely powerful and you can utilize it in ways you
perhaps never even thought about, much more than just
physical satisfaction. However, you can only accomplish this
when you have lessened shame and guilt, found the things you
enjoy, and then proceed to satisfy yourself on a whole new
level to bring about positivity in regard to sex. With another
person, perhaps you partner, sexual energy can greatly
enhance the relationship. You can take it to a whole new level
to form a stronger bond with yourself and your partner. The
spiritual connection you can share with your partner through
sexual energy is one of the most profound ones. But, you can
only experience this type of connection when addressing the
negativity and shame you have regarding sex within yourself. So in conclusion, feeling
ashamed of sex or sexual activities, desires, or
masturbation, can be quite common due to society, religion,
and how we were raised and if we were abused. But, releasing that
negativity surrounding sex by understanding the shame, opening
up and talking about it, as well as discovering what we truly
enjoy and going beyond just the physical aspects of sex or
self pleasure, will allow us to confidently express our
sexuality free from shame and guilt. I hope this video was
informative and helpful. Thanks for watching!

Otis Rodgers

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63 COMMENTS

  1. Tav Sondaar Posted on October 2, 2015 at 2:01 pm

    THIS VIDEO WAS SOO HELPFUL THANKS

    Reply
  2. rtt1961 Posted on October 2, 2015 at 2:26 pm

    You always manage to get more out of the topic, to look at it in different, helpful ways. Thank you for the insights !

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  3. LadyRedHawk Posted on October 2, 2015 at 3:13 pm

    thank you…now if only i was able to share this on my facebook…i have family on there and i'm a lil scared of sharing some stuff cuz they do make me feel that guilt you talk about

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  4. LadyRedHawk Posted on October 2, 2015 at 3:14 pm

    also was i the only one who kinda noticed the switch between two of your personalities?

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  5. Mosha Alleman Posted on October 2, 2015 at 4:47 pm

    I love the positive and helpful message you're spreading througout your videos. I really hope you keep on making these 🙂

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  6. Revati-Padme Kumara Mother Goddess Posted on October 2, 2015 at 5:59 pm

    thank you

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  7. Alex R Posted on October 2, 2015 at 6:47 pm

    I saw this video in my subscriptions when I woke up, and I just sat down and told my mom I'm not heterosexual I'm pansexual <3 no joke at all, I wasn't planning on telling her for a while but your vid gave me confidence and I knew I had to change right now to be happier! Thank you so much you inspire me!!! <3 <3 <3

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  8. halfofakitty Posted on October 2, 2015 at 7:01 pm

    Actually there are people who don't masturbate (out of having no personal urge, not shame). The term for this is non-libidoist. A sexual person can be a non-libidoist if they both don't desire to masturbate nor have sex with someone tbey feel sexually attracted to. Again, this is not surpression but having no urge to act.

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  9. M Posdijk Posted on October 2, 2015 at 9:21 pm

    Utilize sexual energy in non-physical ways? Really looking forward to that video!

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  10. Devilyn Orseske Posted on October 2, 2015 at 10:36 pm

    i love your videos. you have taught me to accept myself & have an open mind & accept others.

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  11. Scott Tiedemann Posted on October 2, 2015 at 11:24 pm

    As usual, you bring such a positive, informative, and interesting perspective to each new topic you present. Thank you for all the thought and effort you put into your videos. 🙂

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  12. The Paper Witch Posted on October 3, 2015 at 1:17 am

    thank you for this video i t opened my eyes up to a lot in my own life

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  13. Mike Miller Posted on October 3, 2015 at 2:22 am

    just watched your video that you put a link to it hit me like ton of bricks as I was abused at the age of 12 by a guy I'm 49 years old and I still can't get it out of my head still go blank when I think about it but keep your video's coming thanks you're friend always mike

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  14. I Oh Posted on October 3, 2015 at 4:42 am

    Thank you this video helped me

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  15. Christy B Posted on October 3, 2015 at 1:38 pm

    I really needed this video today, there is something almost soothing about your videos they calm me down. And I live in a very religious household that shames same sex couples, yet I've been attracted to girls and I no longer feel ashamed. It's taken a long time to finally accept it, thank you 🙂

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  16. frank x Posted on October 3, 2015 at 3:19 pm

    I personally think a lot of TG people focus on the identity side of things and try to play down their sexuality instead of
    embracing it.
    Because of shame, of course. If one's urges and bodily cravings are felt to be inappropriate to one's gender (and more
    typical for the opposite gender), this can be difficult because there is an awareness that society will view these things as absurd or distasteful.
    We forget here that "society" is not so much made up of sociology professors, but villagers with flaming torches, and that
    their approval should perhaps not be so sought after.

    One question inspired by your helpful video:
    You mentioned getting toys off the internet in the past, before SRS.
    I, (and possibly others on the path), would like to know how things tend to change in this respect following SRS.
    How much would you say your interests have now shifted elsewhere: do you still use the old toys at all?

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  17. TobiasHeath Brown Posted on October 3, 2015 at 4:02 pm

    Very interesting discussion. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Will certainly check out your other video on sexual energy.

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  18. Stacey S. Posted on October 3, 2015 at 10:29 pm

    you're right, society promotes sex as private, in spite of um its selling of sex. even though we reproduce all the time! i know where my shame comes from, although i feel like i'm always lying about it, and "blaming". my orgasms have been seriously weak, always. i explore this in detail in my poems and commit to a monogamous relationship this way.

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  19. Yuuka Kazami Posted on October 4, 2015 at 2:35 am

    Why don't more people know about you? Seriously, The messages you have for other people are amazing, I personally like that you think logically.

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  20. One above all Posted on October 4, 2015 at 3:42 am

    Nice video Autumn.

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  21. Maple_ Syrup Posted on October 4, 2015 at 5:06 am

    Whenever you say "but first…" I think everyone knows what I think of xD hahaha it would be pretty funny hear you say that

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  22. Colette Gabrielle Posted on October 4, 2015 at 3:31 pm

    great video. you should be a sex therapist

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  23. LaLaTKittles Posted on October 4, 2015 at 11:06 pm

    I've always felt ashamed and embarrassed about sexual acts. My alter personalities have no problem with acting out their desires, and I enjoy the fantasy world inside of my head, but when it comes to involving a real partner I rarely have the confidence, and when I do, I have tremendous regret afterward. I've had the same boyfriend/fiancée for the past 8 years, he's my best friend in the whole world, and I still can't fully open up to him about that stuff. Even in my role playing group, I couldn't handle hearing my GM give a brief description of my character being kissed by her boyfriend. It was really awkward. In my own private alone time, I can let myself enjoy sexual acts mentally and physically. I guess it's partly due to not seeing myself as beautiful, even though my friends tell me I am. I need to physically distance myself from interactions. I'm really glad that you've posted this video. You might be one of my new heroes. I don't know if I'll ever get over my pessimism/low self-esteem, and conquer my fears on this topic, but I think I'll try to "Go Beyond the Physical." I used to write out my sexual ideas, and that would help a bit. I might have to try again…

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  24. T BytheBay Posted on October 5, 2015 at 12:04 am

    You are getting better and better at being more natural and conversational in your presentation. And your content, which is really good, is so much easier to process when you speak more like you are having a conversation with the listener. I really appreciate your efforts here. I disassociate on some of these issues so it helps if you are more relaxed and conversational like this. Thank you!

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  25. Logan Posted on October 5, 2015 at 1:13 am

    guuuurrrrrrlllllllll your eyebrows on FLEEK! 💕

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  26. AllSeeingEye Posted on October 5, 2015 at 8:20 am

    So informative! I used to feel guilt from masturbation as a child, but now I find it extremely healthy for me. I really want to learn more about going beyond the physical. For me sex has always been purely physical so I'm dying to learn more. Love your videos.

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  27. jennifer Parker Posted on October 5, 2015 at 10:56 am

    Your video lesson always make me to understand what I need to know..you are like a professor. Thanks for your good video and teaching….cheers

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  28. heather dawn pipke Posted on October 7, 2015 at 3:03 pm

    very good thank-you…💞

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  29. Amal Elserbene Posted on October 9, 2015 at 9:23 am

    Why don't you do some tags or facts about you we really want to know you more

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  30. mad maxxx Posted on October 11, 2015 at 5:09 pm

    I've been following you since 2,000 subscribers I've found you beautiful and very interesting in all aspects. Also I must ask one thing if a man came into your life that fulfilled everything you dreamed of could you autumn deny him as love truely knows no boundaries deny him btw your one of my favorite people on this planet and keep on dear being beautiful

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  31. Jamiekisses Jillybean Posted on October 11, 2015 at 9:35 pm

    unless one wants to fuk me what does it matter what i look like

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  32. Jamiekisses Jillybean Posted on October 11, 2015 at 9:36 pm

    btw i love your hair 😉 ever try a tiny top hat 🙂

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  33. Skye ID Posted on October 14, 2015 at 9:36 pm

    Not everyone is a sexual being. Asexual folks would disagree. You talk about people choosing whether or not to engage in sexual behaviour. Asexuality is not a choice, it's a sexual orientation. It's not the same as someone who chooses to not have sex. Also, it might trigger and/or offend some people when you discuss your former genitalia as "male". There are trans/non-binary people who know they are neither male nor female, neither man nor woman, and they do not refer to their genitals according to the male-female binary system. I don't identify as "female", and labeling them as such would trigger my dysphoria.

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  34. Casey Posted on October 15, 2015 at 2:28 am

    I have a question and I honestly don't mean to be rude or disrespectful but after a male gets the srs, can they feel pleasure during sex? What does it feel like? Do you need lubrication? I understand it's a very personal question and if you Autumn, or anyone else could enlighten me I would really appreciate it. Also Autumn, I am addicted to your videos now. You have such a soothing and professional way of presenting information. You help so many. Thank you.

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  35. Godsxplanet 777 Posted on October 17, 2015 at 11:55 pm

    love your videos

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  36. Wesley Kohlman Posted on October 21, 2015 at 4:44 am

    I'm attracted to you. I like women only so it's kinda strange you were once a man.

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  37. Chris Paans Posted on October 29, 2015 at 6:40 am

    Thank you for your helpful and kind videos!

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  38. Stephanie Sarah Fishman Posted on November 7, 2015 at 8:44 am

    Thank you for this post.

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  39. Emre Yavuzalp Posted on November 7, 2015 at 8:21 pm

    I actually want to be able to say that I only want to make sex with woman, face to face. But it seems really rude. But I don't like ridicilous blabbering. How do I get a woman to have sex with me that way? How may I meet women like that? I don't think I am a bad person, but sex is very important thing in my life, can't deny it. But I am very ashamed of telling it to the people, or the girls I am attracted to. They would probably go very rude if I say that directly that I would get upset. I am really confused in this situation :'(

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  40. Carus Productions Posted on November 17, 2015 at 1:14 am

    I started writing an erotica novel under a pen name and I still have yet to decide a publication date, but it's eye opening. So many times while writing a sex scene I asked myself if some descriptions were too graphic and tried to water it down, but that would make me feel sad after. Your sexual desires are healthy. If it's consensual and both people are legal, enjoy it!

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  41. Babybunny Booh Posted on November 25, 2015 at 5:44 am

    God I love watching your videos not because you are here on you tube but when I watch your videos I feel like I'm sitting right next to you listening to you getting to know you one on one and I love this about your videos you are such an intelligent human being and I admire you so much… not only are you gorgeous but your being is just beautiful

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  42. Manuela E. Posted on December 6, 2015 at 5:11 pm

    I think it's wonderful how you help people all around the world by making these videos. You make this world a better place, thank you!

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  43. Angie Moggy Posted on January 6, 2016 at 12:40 pm

    I know this video is a few months old and not sure if you still read comments but I have a question that I would like from a trans perspective. Of course anyone else that is reading this and can offer some insight, please do.

    During my reclusive, pre-therapy days… I didn't speak to anyone in the "real world". All of my communication was spent talking to people online. I belonged to a lot of online forums. I remember one particular conversation I read regarding trans sexuality. The question was basically if a trans woman still has her penis, how if at all does it affect their sex life? One woman responded who was married to a lesbian said that yes, she still uses her penis… her thoughts were I still have it, it still works, so yeah of course I will still use it. Another respondent was on the other side and quite extremely saying she hated her penis so much that she often fantasizes about just cutting it off herself. Said she would never want to be with a woman that wanted anything to do with… touch it or even look at it. She threw the word fake all over the place and I think she even accused my friend of being a fake because she chooses the still use her penis in her love making. The conversation naturally got heated and the the topic got closed down.

    I can only see this from a cis lesbian female perspective but it has always made me wonder about getting into a relationship with a pre op trans woman and being overly careful. Personally I don't care that they still have a penis… to me that's irrelevant because I'm obviously with them because I like them as a person. Of course as a lesbian, I am attracted to a woman's body and my personal preference is femininity. When I am with a trans woman sexually, I see a beautiful woman that I care about deeply and I am connected with mentally. While I may not be able to do all the things I love to do with a cis female or post op trans woman, it doesn't make the experience any less enjoyable and if they want to make love to me using their penis, I'm ok with that. If not… I'm ok with that too. I let them take the lead on that because I know what I like and I want the experience to be just as amazing for them. I know a lot of people would go along with something they are not comfortable doing out of fear of losing or disappointing their partner and that is so wrong. I would be upset if my partner didn't communicate with me what they were feeling.

    So basically what I am asking is what would you say to a trans woman that had so much body hate but is not able to have the surgery any time soon. Of course I suspect the particular person I referenced above has a lot more going on than just hating her penis and I hope for her sake that she has addressed that.

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  44. Critical Analysis Posted on January 25, 2016 at 11:18 am

    Some beautiful, wise words there — very interesting. Thank your for incredible insight. All the best 🙂

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  45. Caucasian African Posted on February 1, 2016 at 9:10 pm

    I'm so glad you are comfortable with who you are. A healthy, normal women.

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  46. thepap 000 Posted on March 27, 2016 at 10:23 am

    is that a guy ?

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  47. lawfulvictorian x Posted on March 31, 2016 at 11:33 am

    Thank you. I finally have an idea of why I feel guilty and how to overcome it. I've been so upset about it for a while. Just, really, thank you so much for making this video, it's really helped me out.

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  48. WestEast3259585 Posted on May 11, 2016 at 11:17 pm

    [EXTREMELY TRIGGERING]

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  49. Ori Klein Posted on May 12, 2016 at 6:34 am

    I see this is about a year old. I hope you're doing a better narration job now. I'm barely 1:22 in and I'm feeling half-asleep.

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  50. Pegasus Posted on May 18, 2016 at 7:17 am

    First understand what guilt is and where it comes from

    Guilt is an emotional no one wants it likes and can't shut off . if so where does guilt come from . guilt cones through the solar plexus chakra if the soul and is an energy signal sent by God and the angels to teach you that you have done wrong .guilt is a tool for learning .

    When will God and the angels send feelings of guilt to you ..

    when you fall out of sync with your true spiritual nature

    list if sins that will cause guilt

    Homosexuality
    peadophilia
    incest
    threesoms or orgies
    masturbation
    watching porn
    sexual thoughts if others whilst masturbating to them
    beastiality

    we are designed to have sex with the oppirsite sex and always have sex with its basis in love so you respect your partner .

    spitting in a person's mouth may cause guilt or wearing makeup or making or allowing them to be clean in bed and wash before engaging in sexual activity if needed

    anal is fine . so is oral and ejaculations into womans body parts I.e mouth vagina and bottom

    things not to do

    dress sexy . god has given you all you need to enjoy sex enhancements are deviancy including wearing lipstick or other makeup and sexy underwear .

    sex toys are not good either we don't need to masturbate it's not a need but a greed and a deviancy touching yourself is homosexuality and a deviancy which is where the guilt comes into play .

    no dirty talk or sexual fantasies towards others when with a partner that is disrespectful .

    if your bored whilst with a partner and need to use enhancements it's because we are not designed to settle down variety is the spice of life so we see other people relationships are need based and selfish and hold others back taking there freedoms which is a deviancy .

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  51. Pegasus Posted on May 18, 2016 at 7:18 am

    Masturbation is self abuse

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  52. Maria C Posted on June 28, 2016 at 7:06 pm

    I'm 20 y/o and I've never had sex. I will never have sex because even the thought of having sex and being touched and therefore become dirty disgusts me. It's so extremely hard because I get turned on and attracted to people but I refuse to act on it. I don't think I will ever stop feeling like this. Thank you for this video though!

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  53. غرفة ٧٩٣ Posted on January 22, 2017 at 10:58 pm

    wow , thank you for this video , that was uplifting

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  54. TheShiuller Posted on February 7, 2017 at 9:32 pm

    you are so well spoken and you can tell that you've taken a lot of time and put a lot of work into these videos. very insightful, thank you

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  55. Ron Cecchetti Posted on June 10, 2017 at 8:34 pm

    This really helped me. Thank you

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  56. Diddy love Posted on November 6, 2017 at 6:05 am

    you are so beautiful Thankyou !

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  57. Dare Gabner Posted on December 12, 2017 at 6:00 am

    I cant let unless i have no control.

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  58. Dare Gabner Posted on December 12, 2017 at 6:02 am

    I wan5ed 2 b so close 2 ppl i wanted 2 be inside them..love everyone.

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  59. Guru La Posted on January 1, 2018 at 3:26 am

    I've learn to cope with the many women i messed off with. Its like pizza, i Craved i had it, it was damn enjoyable be happy about & Move on.

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  60. Jibri Trawick Posted on May 2, 2018 at 7:40 pm

    I had no idea you were trans, but I can relate completely. I’m pre-op mtf trans, and I feel very dysphoric when I want to engage in masturbation, it really bothers me and makes me aware of my genitalia, and I get even more unhappy with it. I want to start my transition as soon as I can so I can be happy. Your video helped me a lot, thank you, I’m subscribing.

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  61. Eliza K Sapara Grant Posted on December 10, 2018 at 11:47 pm

    thank you x

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